YEARNING FOR COITION IN MARRIAGE:

The Bible shows how beautiful it is for a wife to enjoy sex with her husband. Both the wife and her husband are mandated to satisfy each other as we saw in my previous posts.

In Song of Solomon, the wife says to her husband during foreplay: “Let your lips cover me with kisses…! How handsome you are, my lover! How you excite me” chp 1: 2-16.

And the husband responded with great delight: “My bride, your lips drip honey. You, my bride, are a garden; a garden locked to others. Your garden is filled with… delicious fruits”. Chp. 4: 11-13

These two scripture reveals that the two lovers where romancing. It is your duty to individually create a good atmosphere that will enhance your sexual ecstasy. And you can do that through soft murmurs, encouraging noises, sounds of pleasure, approval and sensation, gasping and shivering.

As a responder, you wife must be completely comfortable undressing before your husband. Aim at provocating him deliberate. Look him in the eyes and slowly remove each of his garments, caressing your skin as you do so. 

Husband, there is a right and wrong way of getting ready for copulation. Take it easy and slowly. Do not rush. Build up your passion before launching into the deep. Sex is all in the brain. Yes, the brain is the biggest sex organ.

PRACTICAL STEPS TO KINDLE YOUR WIFE'S SEXUAL FEELINGS:
Many of the most significant things in kindling a woman’s sexual feelings are quite different to what makes a man feel like having sex. Here are pointers as to how to help your wife (I said WIFE not girlfriend) know she is loved, and bringing her to the peak of her sexuality.

• Praise her. Regularly find things you like about her physical appearance, her character and abilities, and verbalise your admiration. Appreciate all that she does for you and freely express your gratitude.

• Be loyal to her. Don’t say negative things about her behind her back. Defend her if anyone speaks negatively about her. Don’t undermine her authority in front of the children.

• Seek to discover her inner feelings. Keep pushing your self to new levels of tenderness and sensitivity to her needs. Aim to go beyond any world standard and gallantly break into new realms of tenderness and exalting her.

• Reason with her. Recognise and make allowances for times when she is tired or upset. Massage can be optional.

• Respect her opinions. You might not always agree with her, but try to. Thoughtfully consider her views. Never rubbish them suddenly.

• Consult her before making any decisions. Share your plans and dreams with her. Be open and honest with her about every aspect of your life. Regularly ask her such things as:

i. What can I do to make you feel more loved?
ii. What can we do to make sex more exciting and fulfilling for you?

You were born to be a lover. Rise up to your high calling and you will find fulfilment beyond your fondest dreams.