A lady went to her pastor because she wanted a divorce from her husband. During counselling he asked her, “Do you have any grounds?” She said, “Yeah, three acres outside of town. You’ve been there preacher!”
“No” he said, “I mean, do you have a grudge?” She thought a minute and said, “No, we have a carport!”
Trying a different tactic, he said. “No, like, does your husband beat you up?” She said, “No, I get up at 6, an hour before him!”
The preacher said, “What I am asking is, do you have a case?” Without missing a beat, she said, “Nope, we’ve got a John Deere box!”
Finally, in exasperation the preacher said, “Ma’am, what I’m trying to ask you is this; are you and your husband having any troubles?”
She said, “Oh yes, preacher. We’re having lots of troubles”. “Like what,” asked the preacher? “Well” said the wife, “the problem is my husband. He just can’t communicate.”
Let me just give you a few thoughts about communication to whet your appetite.
Learn to listen to the other person. When you talk, it would be good to look at one another. It wouldn't even hurt to turn the TV off. It might not even hurt to lean forward and get a little closer to one another.
Learn to handle your anger. We have so much anger in our culture. There is so much anger in family relationships today. When people are angry they handle it in one of several ways. Sometimes they just blow up. Other times they clam up. Sometimes they throw up, as in the past!
We have to learn to open up and learn to properly express ourselves.
Learn to avoid certain words. You know exactly what words to say to get your mate upset. You know the words that cut them and cause them pain. We all know which buttons to push, don’t we? We have to work and learn to get rid of those kinds of words.
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