HE COMPLAINT TO ME “MY WIFE IS NOT ACTIVE ON BED”:

While I was in my study room, a troubled husband came to my house and banged at the door, screeming bitterly about his wife inability to satisfy him sexually. He said “Pastor Jabari, she sleep like a wood”. I calm him down and told him that I understand the emotional stress he is going through and also understand why his wife might not be active on bed. I told him that a woman is like a fruit, which will not yield its sweetness until you rub it between your hands. Look at the basil plant; if you do not rub it warm with your fingers, it will not emit any scent. Like the amber, if it is not abrade it keeps hidden within its pores the aroma contained in it.

This apply to the woman, if you do not animate her with your toying, intermixed with kissing, nibbling, fondling and touching, you will not obtain from her what you are wishing; you will feel no enjoyment when you share her couch and you will awaken in her heart neither inclination nor affection, nor love for you; all her qualities will remain hidden.

What creates affection in the female heart, with respect to the pleasures of intercourse, are the toying and touches which precede it, and then the close embrace now of ejaculation.

Isn’t sex such a fun? This it is which gives birth to lasting intimacy, and if matters have not been manage this way the woman has not had her full share of pleasure, and the man feels he is cheated. Real love is mental attitude; therefore, it is positive and not possessive on bed.

SEX IS FUN: Husbands, slow down. She need a foreplay.

All marriage counsellors agree upon the absolute necessity of sexual compatibility in marriage. Nine out of ten divorces are caused by sexual troubles. Isn’t it pitiful, then, that in this 21st Century, with all of our books, Internet structure, scientific discoveries and education, marriages should be destroyed and lives wrecked by ignorance concerning this most primal and natural instinct?

Most men are like Cock, they come home and tell the wife "Oya undress yourself". No sweet talk, no romance. He just want it and he don't care if the woman is in the mood or not. Most women become frigid as a result of their husband's inability to stimulate them before intercourse. Solomon taught us a great lesson in S/S. 4: 1-5. He knew that the best way to have a sexual satisfaction is to stimulate the woman. He talk about her eyes, neck, mouth, breasts and touching every part of her.

HUSBAND - Before setting to work with your wife, excite her with toying so that the copulation will finish to your mutual satisfaction. Thus, it will be well to play with her before you introduce your verge and accomplish the cohabitation. The best way to climax is to excite your wife by kissing her cheeks, sucking her lips and nibbling at her breasts. You are to lavish kisses on her navel and thighs, and titillate the lower parts. Neglect no part of her body, she is your garden, and fountain of running water; cling close to her bosom, and show her your love. Interlace your legs with hers, and press her in your arms. Under her neck, let your left hand serve her for a cushion and your right hand to bore her up as a young doe.

“His left hand is under my head, and his right hand doth embrace me” S/S. 2 v 6

When you are close to her, and you see her eyes getting dim, and hear her yearning for coition, heaving deep sighs, then let your yearning and her yearning be joined into one, and let your lubricity rise to the highest point; for this will be the moment most favourable to the game of love. The pleasure, which the woman then feels, will be extreme; as for yourself, you will cherish her even more and she will continue her affection for you.