SPIRITUAL MISMATCH MARRIAGE:

Elizabeth asked me, "Jabari, even though my husband goes to church every Sunday, his spiritual walk seems to be at a standstill. He doesn't seem truly interested in God, family, or me. What should I do?

Hear is my answer to Elizabeth: A good Scripture to start with is 1 Peter 3:1-2, which tells us that husbands "may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior." Make sure that you are growing spiritually while continuing to pray for him. A wife must not focus on her husband's lack of spiritual qualities but on the bigger picture--that God desires to use her in his life to challenge him spiritually. The prayer and hope would be that her godly life would challenge him and make him seek to grow.

First, be aware you are not alone. There are many other spouses in this situation. Second, realize that you are responsible to grow in your relationship with Christ regardless of your circumstances. Keep your Christian walk strong and avoid becoming lukewarm. Third, pray for God to do whatever it takes to change your husband's lifestyle. God doesn't have a pleasant reaction to lukewarm Christianity. Ask God to bring godly men into your husband's life.
Make sure that you don't think of yourself as superior to your husband because he is struggling. This is, unfortunately, a common scenario for a woman who is more mature spiritually than her husband. The temptation to think this way is from the Enemy. The devil wants a wife to push her husband away.

If she is really loving her husband the way God has designed her to love him, according to all the biblical teachings, then God can use that to draw the husband to Himself. But it is so easy to slip into being critical. If he feels like you are being critical at all, he doesn't have any reason to turn around and become a godly man.