Many people married in the night, only to wake up in the morning and discover they married the wrong partner.
So was the case of Jacob; in Genesis 29: 20-25, the Bible says “And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her. 21 And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, that I may go in unto her. 22 And Laban gathered together all the men of the place, and made a feast. 23 And it came to pass in the evening that he took Leah his daughter, and brought her to him; and he went in unto her. 24 And Laban gave unto his daughter Leah Zilpah his maid for an handmaid. 25 And it came to pass, that in the morning, behold, it was Leah.”
It is not God’s will for you to marry in the dark. He gives you wisdom and knowledge to guide you and His Spirit to help you know His will through the Bible. The Word of God is light and once you allow it to shine during your relationship quest, it guides and help you to marry in the light.
I will soon release another eBook title “Relationship Pitfalls”. It’s an eBook design to help you overcome the pitfalls of relationship before you end up marrying in the dark and regret when the light shines.
So many great leaders, ministers of the gospel and believers are in bitterness today because they married in the evening and when it is morning, they discovered it’s not really what they desire.
THREE KINDS OF PEOPLE YOU SHOULD NEVER MARRY
The Scriptures also give other specific characteristics of the kind of people to avoid. This would certainly apply to marrying any of them. There are three kinds of people that Proverbs says to stay away from, the FOOL, the SLUGGARD, and the one who does not control his tongue. A fool is one who acts foolishly. Prov.14:7 says, “Stay away from a foolish man, for you will not find knowledge on his lips.”
The characteristics of someone who is foolish are given in several places in Proverbs. Prov.12:15 says that a fool "does what seems right to him and does not listen to advice." Prov.14:16 says that he is "hotheaded and reckless." Prov.18:2 says he "delights in airing his own opinions" and Prov.20:3 says he is "quick to quarrel." Prov.28:26 sums up the basic problem in his life when it says that a foolish man "does not walk in wisdom." Prov.29:11 also says he "gives full vent to his anger, and has no self-control." We should avoid marrying people with these characteristics.
Proverbs also says to watch out for a man who is lazy (the sluggard). Prov.19:15 indicates that a sluggard is sleeping all the time and thus going hungry. Prov.26:15 shows that he is too lazy to put out the effort to feed himself. Prov.24: 30-34 says that laziness brings on poverty. Women especially are to avoid a lazy man who will not meet his financial responsibilities. It is sad to see a woman married to a man who is always talking about making the “big bucks.” Yet, he is one who is not willing to get a steady job. Beware of allowing yourself to be attracted to a man who cannot keep a job. It is a strong possibility that he won’t suddenly change after he gets married.
We should avoid those who lie (Prov.6:17). Lying destroys any foundation of trust in a relationship. You will never know whether he or she is telling the truth or not. Prov.28:23 warns about someone who has a "flattering tongue." This kind of a person praises you when he doesn’t really mean it. He just wants to get something from you. Prov.15:1 shows another kind of person to avoid, one who uses harsh words. Harsh words destroy the hearts and minds of others and make a lifetime relationship a lifetime of hurt.
Another characteristic to avoid is a one who lacks self-control. Prov.25:28 says, “Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control.” A "city which has no walls" is a city which has no defense against harm. A person who lacks self-control has no defense against harm. Ruin and destruction will be his because he cannot keep his emotions and desires under control. He cannot or does not restrain his behavior. Self-control is an important quality for success in life and relationships. God has set forth limits of behavior; self-control keeps his actions within those limits.
