WHERE IS GOD’S HELP IN MARRIAGE?

Prov 28:9 “One who turns away his ear from hearing the law, Even his prayer is an abomination”. 

She asked me, “Pastor Jabari, If God loves people and answers prayer, then why is my marriage falling apart despite all my prayers and fasting?” I believe there are so many spouses asking similar questions today. I do not claim to have all the answers, but I do claim to have an answer that warrants serious consideration.

God cannot answer prayer when we are murmuring and complaining about the very thing we are asking God to help us in. This is the pit that only goes in circles that many find themselves in. They pray to God asking Him to restore, heal and bless their marriage…but while they are not praying…they are complaining and murmuring to others how bad things are. Then they wonder and question why God does not help them more.

God cannot bless your marriage or your spouse through your prayers if you are complaining and murmuring to others or in your heart. God works with your words…not despite your words. Why is this true? Because complaining and murmuring about a troubled marriage is evidence that one is not believing that God is presently working it all out. We must remember that without faith, we cannot please and receive from God. If you really believed that God was working to change and restore your marriage, then you would talk as if He was actively doing just that. Our words about our spouse and marriage spoken to others reveal what we believe. Murmuring and complaining reveal no faith that God is indeed actively healing, changing and restoring your marriage.

God is eager to make marriage heaven on earth for everyone. Marriage is His creation. God Himself established marriage in the earth among men and women. The Marriage Institution is not broken. However, there is a war on marriage today. The strength of our churches, society and nation is founded upon the strength of its marriages. 

The enemy to marriage knows well that he only has to create murmuring and complaining to cut off God’s power to create heaven on earth in your marriage. Murmuring and complaining is the direct opposite of faith. It is simply impossible to have faith in God for your marriage and yet still complain and murmur in your thoughts and heart about your marriage or spouse.

Learning to bless what you want to be a blessing is a key to releasing the power of prayer. Learning to forgive those who you desire to love you more tenderly is the only way for God to work in that person’s life. Learning to cast all your care upon the Lord as you bless and curse not is the open door to the power of prayer. God cannot bless what you are not blessing!