ANGER IN MARRIAGE: is this your weakness?

Speaking to your spouse with esteem and respect can keep love alive in marriage no matter what conflict may arise. The problem with doing this simple yet powerful truth is that we tend to speak out of our emotions and feelings rather than out of wisdom and understanding. Conflict seldom becomes an issue when our words are controlled and governed by respect and empathy towards one another rather than motivated by out-of-control emotions and feelings. 

So how do you take charge of your negative emotions of anger, irritation and offense? Your emotions today are seated and developed by what you “have been” thinking. People who regularly think thoughts that are not constructive rarely have their words under control…especially when circumstances arouse or stimulate negative feelings.

No one can habitually think adverse thoughts about their spouse and yet talk with respect and honor to them when the heat comes on. Angry emotions with its hurtful words and behavior are empowered and fueled by destructive thoughts that have not been identified, rejected and pulled down.

If you are battling emotions that cause you to speak words that hurt and offend, chances are you are thinking poorly and negatively far more than you realize. Offensive, hurtful, and poor behavior are seated in adverse thinking. Many couples live with conflict all because they continue to speak and act according to how they feel. They claim justification because they say they are just speaking the truth. But the truth is they are slaves to their feelings. Feelings and emotions come and go like the waves of the sea, but the power and ability to think forgiveness, love and kindness remains your choice each and every day. You can conquer anger by conquering your adverse non-productive thought life.