GOD'S BLUEPRINT FOR YOUR HOME

 

In today's world, there are many conflicting voices vying for our attention when it comes to the subject of marriage. But if you are a follower of Christ, look no further than the Word of God. The God who made you, redeemed you, and loves you has already given you a glorious blueprint for marriage.

What is a blueprint? 

A blueprint is a guide for making something — it's a design or pattern that can be followed. A blueprint is a guide for making something — it's a design or pattern that can be followed.

If you’re planning to build a house, you can’t start the process without a blueprint.

The blueprint is the plan that a builder must have in order to build. It gives the builder a vision for what a house is supposed to look like. Without it, the construction crew wouldn’t know what to do. Walls might not meet. Rooms might not be where they are supposed to be. Important things like plumbing, wiring, and doorways might be placed wrong. The entire building could eventually collapse because it would be structurally unsound.

The same thing is true of your marriage. Without a blueprint, who knows how it would turn out! But thankfully, you HAVE a blueprint for your marriage.

God has a blueprint for building strong, successful Marriages and Families! He has clearly drawn out that blueprint in the Bible. God’s Word, the Bible provides God’s guidelines for you, the path for you to follow.

Psalm 119:105 says the Bible is “a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” Right now, you can't see down the whole path for your life. The future is shrouded in darkness. But God’s Word is a light to that darkness! It can show you the way to go.

The Word gives you a vision for what your life is supposed to look like.

When you read the Bible, you learn how to walk through marriage journey, and how to walk out God’s specific plan for your family. Without it, your marriage could eventually collapse. The Bible is God talking to you. It is His Word to you, and His Word is His will.

Let’s review Gods Blueprint for marriage.

1. Gods Blueprint For Married Couples: It is Gods design and will that each married couple leave their parents, cleave to each other and become intimately involved (one flesh) with each other.

2. Gods Blueprint For Husbands: It is Gods design and will that each husband love his own wife and lead her.

3. Gods Blueprint For Wives: It is Gods design and will that each wife submit to her own husband and assist, aid and complete him.

4. Gods Blueprint For Communication: It is Gods design and will that family members listen and talk with each other often, within the context of self-control.

5. Gods Blueprint For Commitment: It is Gods design and will that each family member be committed to Christ, spouses be committed to each other, and parents be committed to their children.

6. Gods Blueprint For Parents: It is Gods design and will that each parent rear their children biblically, communicate with them constantly, and love them fervently.

7. Gods Blueprint For Children: It is Gods design and will that children obey and honor their parents when they are young and honor their parents when they are old.

As a home is built, it will reflect the builder.

Most couples fail to consult the Master Architect and His blueprints for building a home. Instead a man and woman marry with two sets of blueprints (his and hers). As they begin building, they discover that a home can’t be built from two very different sets of blueprints.

Some architect friends of mine once told me that the frustrating thing about being an architect is when people ask you to design a home for them, but you discover they've already designed it and just want your stamp of approval on the blueprints. Many Christians do the same with God when it comes to building a family. They try to design it themselves, then they plop it down and say, "Oh yeah, God, by the way, would You bless this?"

The smartest way to build a home is to discover the blueprint that the original architect already designed and stick with that. As Solomon wrote in Psalm 127, "Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it" (v. 1). According to this psalm, a smart home—a family that depends on God—has four elements:

1. The designer. The Psalm begins by highlighting God because He is the divine architect of the home. Marriage, family, and love were all His idea (see Genesis 2:18). If any of these things were man's invention, then man could regulate them, nullify them, and redefine them all he wanted. But because they were all God's idea, they're subject to His principles.

2. The builders. Verse 1 indicates that the divine builder is God, but it also includes human builders—they, the ones in the home. Life is lived at its best when you build alongside the Lord using His design. Psalm 127 goes on to describe what these human builders are building: relationships. You can build projects for temporal profit (see v. 2), or you can build people for spiritual, eternal profit (see vv. 3-5). You can do both, but if you have to choose one, the second is much more preferable.

3. The dwellers. The smart home comprises a man (see v. 5) and his wife and children (see vv. 3-4). But the Lord is also mentioned as being part of this unit. He builds and "guards the city" (v. 1) and gives the inhabitants sleep (see v. 2). What that tells me is God wants to be part of every aspect of your family's life. He doesn't want to be confined to Sunday mornings and the Bible on the nightstand. The Lord wants you to enjoy life (see 1 Timothy 6:17) and enjoy Him in your life.

4. The Enjoyers. Speaking of enjoyment, let's end with the enjoyers. "Happy is the man who has his quiver full of [arrows]" (v. 5), or children. Happy comes from a Hebrew word that means blissful, contented, or satisfied. That's what a smart home does: it makes happy people. So, happy is the man, happy is his wife, and happy are his children in the home because the Lord has designed it, the Lord has helped them build it, and the Lord has strengthened, provided for, and protected it.

I am reminded of what we read in Matthew 7:24-27 Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: 25 And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock. 26 And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: 27 And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.

Marriages that last, and families that are strong, build according to Gods Blueprint. Building on any other foundation is like building on the sand.

Are you building according to the divine architect's plans? And have you invited Him to be part of every area of your home? You'll discover the thrill of Him providing for and protecting your relationships today, and you'll be able to rest in the promise of joining Him in His everlasting home for all eternity.

Now is the right time to invite God and allow Him to build our home. Once we give up our individual blueprints and surrender to God's blueprint, our home will be a happy haven on Earth.

When you follow God's blueprint for marriage, Satan's schemes will have no power.