The Urban dictionary defines "Friends with Benefit" as two friends (male & female) who are too close to one another and have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a relationship or marriage commitment.
Don't have a false hope that having sex with a friend will make him or her fall in love with you. They will only use you and dump you. And once you get pregnant, the only option is to keep a fatherless baby and bear the burden alone or abort the baby and then live with guilt while the guy move on with his life, probablly with his girlfriend.
Having a friend of benefit will keep away potential suitors from you. Well, many years ago, I was one of them—a professing young believer battling lust and looking for love. As a result, I found myself caught up in this tangled “friend with benefits” web. I thought having a casual friend who could also meet emotional and sometimes physical needs for me would help me coast through life until the right one came along. So, I met a desperate and lonely Christian sister who has no boyfriend. I felt like I was in no condition for a real relationship anyway, but we became close friends. After a short period of time, we ended up having sex without any commitment. Finally she got pregnant. And guess what? We aborted the pregnancy.
I was in a mess and didn’t even know it! It affected my relationship with God until I cried for repentance and also asked the lady to forgive me. I suffered spiritually and truly damaged relationships. Now that I have learned the painful lessons from my own past mistakes, I can assure you; this is not the route you want to go. Avoid the friends with benefits scenario at all costs for both spiritual and practical reasons:
SPIRITUAL REASON: Sex outside of marriage is sin plain and simple. It is better to wait for marriage than to displease the Lord. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 says “It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality.” Countless other scriptures urge you to abstain until marriage and avoid the sexual compromise that pulls you away from God and connects you to men God never intended you to be with intimately.
PRACTICAL REASON: You're setting your friendship up for an epic fall. For many reasons, after casual sex, the dynamics of that friendship change and it becomes forever warped. You have to stand your ground if you don’t want lust to dominate and destroy your friendship. If you care about your friend, it’s better to keep your relationship free from TOO MUCH CLOSENESS so you won’t complicate things by undermining the bond of trust and loyalty the two of you have built together.
Don't have a false hope that having sex with a friend will make him or her fall in love with you. They will only use you and dump you. And once you get pregnant, the only option is to keep a fatherless baby and bear the burden alone or abort the baby and then live with guilt while the guy move on with his life, probablly with his girlfriend.
Having a friend of benefit will keep away potential suitors from you. Well, many years ago, I was one of them—a professing young believer battling lust and looking for love. As a result, I found myself caught up in this tangled “friend with benefits” web. I thought having a casual friend who could also meet emotional and sometimes physical needs for me would help me coast through life until the right one came along. So, I met a desperate and lonely Christian sister who has no boyfriend. I felt like I was in no condition for a real relationship anyway, but we became close friends. After a short period of time, we ended up having sex without any commitment. Finally she got pregnant. And guess what? We aborted the pregnancy.
I was in a mess and didn’t even know it! It affected my relationship with God until I cried for repentance and also asked the lady to forgive me. I suffered spiritually and truly damaged relationships. Now that I have learned the painful lessons from my own past mistakes, I can assure you; this is not the route you want to go. Avoid the friends with benefits scenario at all costs for both spiritual and practical reasons:
SPIRITUAL REASON: Sex outside of marriage is sin plain and simple. It is better to wait for marriage than to displease the Lord. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 says “It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality.” Countless other scriptures urge you to abstain until marriage and avoid the sexual compromise that pulls you away from God and connects you to men God never intended you to be with intimately.
PRACTICAL REASON: You're setting your friendship up for an epic fall. For many reasons, after casual sex, the dynamics of that friendship change and it becomes forever warped. You have to stand your ground if you don’t want lust to dominate and destroy your friendship. If you care about your friend, it’s better to keep your relationship free from TOO MUCH CLOSENESS so you won’t complicate things by undermining the bond of trust and loyalty the two of you have built together.
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