DOES PERFECT MARRIAGES EXIST?

I have heard this statement several time during premarital counseling, “No Marriage is Perfect”. Is this statement Biblical?

Why are we giving a wrong concept of marriage to the unmarried? Our traditional concept of marriage, which are not scriptural gives false information to people. It causes them to enter into marriage with the idea that it can’t be perfect no matter how they tried.

The concept of “No Marriage is Perfect” tend to look at marriage in a very physical manner. But the first thing that God does when He instituted marriage is put it on a spiritual plane. 

A first principle seen from Genesis 1 and 2 is that marriage is a divine institution given by God as a part of the created order. Marriage was not “figured out” by man; it was instituted by God right from the start. And it is God’s definition that matters, not any later attempts by man to redefine it.

In the world, people believe there are no perfect marriages. Such believe is unscriptural and has its root in the tradition of men.

What then is tradition?

“Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.” Colossians 2:8

As shown by our theme scripture, the Apostle Paul, in the days of the Early Church, found it necessary to counsel the brethren to resist the influence of the tradition of men. 

Webster’s Dictionary defines tradition as “the handing down of statements, beliefs, legends, information, etc., from generation to generation, especially by word of mouth or by practice: a story that has come down to us or something that is handed down”.

However, human tradition, unsupported by the teachings of the Bible, no matter how old, how venerable, or how seemingly reasonable, should be given no authority by the dedicated child of God and sincere student of the Bible. The Lord’s true people will only give heed to the instructions of his Word, which states, “To the law and to the testimony: if they speak not according to this word, it is because there is no light in them.”—Isa. 8:20

Jesus was very outspoken in condemning the “tradition of the elders” as set forth by the scribes and the Pharisees of his day. He was asked by them why his disciples transgressed these traditions, and his reply was, in part, “Why do you also transgress the commandment of God by your tradition?” (Matt. 15:2,3) Thus Jesus indicates that the traditions of men are often contrary to the commandment, or Word of God.

One of the tradition handed to us is the believe that “Perfect Marriage Does not exist”. 

UNDERSTANDING MARRIAGE PERFECTION

The word “Perfect” means having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be. make (something) completely free from faults or defects; make as good as possible. 

Something that is perfect is complete and without defect or blemish. It might also be precisely accurate or exact. 

For something to be imperfect, means it has flaws, errors, or problems. Imperfect is the opposite of perfect. 

If we say that marriage is imperfect, we are ultimately saying marriage is a human institution and has flaws, errors, problems; it is incomplete. Does this give a true picture of the Marriage created by God from the beginning? 

Remember that God is perfect. Whatever comes out of Him must be perfect. And He expected all His creation to remain perfect just as He is perfect. He says in Matthew 5:48 “Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect”. 

Marriage was designed by God without defect or blemish. Defect and blemishes comes after the Fall of Adam. But the coming of Jesus restores us back to the perfect plan of God.

Your perception of marriage depends on how you view it. If you are seeing marriage through the eyes of God, you will define marriage as a perfect institution; but if you are seeing it through the human eyes, you will define it as imperfect.

HOW CAN MARRIAGE BE IMPERFECT?

Marriage is a part of God’s created order as revealed in Genesis 1 and 2. Genesis 1:26–27 states that on the sixth day of creation “God created man in His image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Seven times in Genesis 1 God states that His creation was “good”.

Good means “to be desired or approved of; something having the required qualities”. Words related to good are: great, satisfying, exceptional, positive, acceptable, satisfactory, valuable, superb, marvelous, bad, wonderful, favorable, excellent, respectable, honest, useful, talented, efficient, reliable, able.

God is good. It's not just what he does; it's who he is — and who he is never changes. He can only produce from what comes out of Him. Let me ask you, is marriage created by God? If your answer is yes, then I want you to answer the next question. Can something created by a Perfect God be classified as “Imperfect”? 

The Bible says, “Matthew 12:35 “A good man out of the good treasure of the heart brings forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things”.

Marriage is a good thing. James 1:17 says “Every GOOD GIFT and every PERFECT GIFT is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning”.

Marriage is a GOOD and PERFECT GIFT from God. It was created and established as a perfect gift, not imperfect.

THE PERFECT MARRIAGE

Let me proof to you that perfect marriage exists and it only exist in the spiritual plane. 

The Bible started with the story of a Perfect Marriage (between Adam and Eve) and ended with the Testimony of the Perfect Marriage (between Jesus and the Church). From the beginning, it was a STORY. But in the Church Age, it is a TESTIMONY.

 

In between the two Perfect Marriages, there was and is an Imperfect Marriage. 

God, from the beginning FORMED marriage as a Perfect Union representing the relationship between the Godhead – God the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. But after the Fall of Adam, the devil gain ascendancy and DEFORMED what God has FORMED. Then God sent His Son, one of the Godhead to REDEEM man and his marriage from DEFORMATION. Thus, the coming of Jesus Christ on earth REFORMED marriage and bring it back to its original purpose. 

Therefore, in this Church Age, we can experience an EXTRAORDINARY MARRIAGE through the grace of the Perfect Marriage between Christ and His Church.