THE DANGERS OF PORNOGRAPHY TO MARRIAGE:

Pornography is a business industry just like any other, they do auditions before employing their actors. Never use pornography as a tool to teach you how to be intimate with your spouse. Porn may look innocent but it has an evil seed to wreck marriages. Reasons why you should not watch porn as couple or married person;

(Fact about men)- an average man has 12-15 centimeters penis when erect and in pornography they choose actors with super gigantic penis of 18-24 centimeters long. So if you watch porn, this may cause an unfair comparison between a normal husband and a porn star. It may put an impression on a wife that a bigger penis is the best and she is missing something. It raises a superficial appetite in a woman to want to experience a gigantic penis.

(Fact about women)- an average wife's body will deform after giving birth and age. A porn star's body is super artificial, she has done plastic surgery, put implants (breasts) and they choose very slim women. The ladies take drugs and they are able do gymnastic moves above an average woman. This raises a superficial expectation in a man's mind that for him to be satisfied her wife must be like a porn star.

This superficial expectation and appetite fueled by porn usually leads to adultery. Porn will cause your mind to believe that you are not satisfied by your spouse, this may lead to letting your guards down at a possible opportunity you meet. Porn is evil and it is a tool orchestrated by the devil to wreck marriages. Believe that your spouse is the best and there is no one better than them; be content and satisfied by your spouse and make the best out of them.

Many people do not realise the emotional and psychological dangers to children and teenagers coming from sexually explicit films. It is quit possible for children to be overstimulated sexually and suffer harmful effects from these porns later in their adult years. This is the reasons why so many can not maintain a steady marriage. As I said above, pornography creates a superficial expectation and appetite which leads to adultery because the victim can't be satisfied and longing for more.

A friend complained to me just of recent that his wife said his penis is too small and its not satisfying her. She prefer a gigantic penis and long to have one. After counseling them, I found out that the woman has been a lover of pornography. So many men today are worry about the size of their penis and go to the extend of using surgery or taking drugs just to be like the porn stars.

The Bible said that our bodies are fearfully and wonderfully made. God fashioned the female vagina to take all sizes of penise. It doesn't really matter how long or how short a male penis is, because the vagina will accommodate itself to virtually any length. The vagina of a woman who hasn't had a child is only 7.5cm (3 inches) long when she's not sexually excited. The figures for women who have had babies are only slightly different. Even when aroused, a woman's vagina usually extends only to a length of about 10cm (about 4 inches). This means any man's penis will fill her vagina completely, unless you happen to be one of those rare guys with an erect penile length of 18-24 centimeters long. You're probably now wondering how the average man with an erection of 18-24 centimeter manages to insert his penis into the vagina at all. But fortunately, the vagina has the most remarkable capacity for lengthening if something is introduced into it gradually. So, we should be grateful to God for creating us the way we are and avoid watching porn.

King David said in Ps 101:3-4 "I will set nothing wicked before my eyes; I hate the work of those who fall away; It shall not cling to me. A perverse heart shall depart from me; I will not know wickedness". NKJV. Lets fight against pornography. It is destroying God's order for marriage and sex.

BUT PORN IS NOT MENTIONED IN THE BIBLE

Somebody said to me, "Jabari, but pornography is not mention in the Bible. Therefore, it cannot be a sin". Here is my respond to him: Even though the Bible does not say anything about pornography, it is still wrong. Pornography deals with photography and/or illicit paintings and/or cartoons that are designed to arouse sexual passions in the viewer. It is certainly possible that at the time when the Bible was written that there were various art forms that depicted sexually explicit things. But apparently this phenomenon was not sufficiently prevalent enough for the subject to be addressed in the Bible. Nevertheless, we can derive an accurate conclusion from scriptures that deal with other issues and apply them to the issue of pornography.

Matt. 5:27-28, "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery'; 28 but I say to you, that everyone who looks on a woman to lust for her has committed adultery with her already in his heart."

 
1 Cor. 6:18, "Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body."

 
Col. 3:5, "Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead to immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed, which amounts to idolatry."

As you can see, the Bible tells us to be sexually pure. This is why Jesus even tells us to guard our minds. Note that He said in Matt. 5:28 that to even look on a woman lustfully is to commit adultery with her. In viewing pornography, nakedness, and explicit sexual displays lust is not only given the pportunity to rise (thereby enticing since) but most often lustful passions and thoughts are triggered in the heart and mind. This is obviously sinful and clearly demonstrates that pornography is sinful. Add to this that oftentimes pornography involves viewing sexual intercourse between unmarried people, and/or homosexual and lesbian activities, and we have a very clear case of it being sinful. Even if the pornography does not involve viewing sexual intercourse between two people, it involves the viewing of naked individuals which is properly reserved for a husband and a wife.