STORY OF A WOMAN WHO USED CHARM AGAINST THE MAN TO MARRY HER:

Isa 1:28 "The destruction of transgressors and of sinners shall be together, And those who forsake the Lord shall be consumed".

Prov 13:15 "Good understanding giveth favour: but the way of transgressors is hard".

This is a true life story shared by Iyke Nathan about an occultic manipulation involving a man and his wife. This man married and "lived" happilly with his wife for twenty five years, and they had six children.

One early morning, the man woke up, looked at his wife, and was greatly bamboozled when he saw her. He began to ask his wife: "Woman who are you? Who brought you to this house? What are you doing here? The woman thought that her husband was joking. "Darling what is wrong?" she asked, hoping to get a mild reply from her good husband. But unfortunately for her, the man became highly exasperated and ordered the woman and the children to move out of the matrimonial home immediately. He vowed to maim her it she refused to move.

Then neighbours and friends gathered at last in this man's house. Some of them thought the man had gone mad, because he told them he was surprised to see the woman in his house claiming to be his wife. He also told them that he could remember to have met her (his wife) as a prostitute about twenty five years ago and that since then he had never seen or met with her again.

At this point the woman began to cry, and at the last she confessed that she used occultic manipulation to seduced him to marry her. She confessed that she manipulated the man into marriage and dominated him through highly concentrated charms, by which she hypnotized the man and caused his spirit to live blindly inside a witchcraft bag throughout the twenty five years of their marriage.

She further confessed that the occult power in her charms is revive once in every nine months, through a secret occult ritual. Having live with the man for many years, she thought that the revival of the charm was no longer necessary, hence she did not perform the required ritual thrice, which was for a period of twenty seven months. It was because of her negligent to perform the ritual that the charms totally expired, whilst the eyes of the man opened. The man came to his senses and could not even believe that he was married to the woman in the first place. That was how the marriage came to an end.

What do you learn from this life testimony? Please, I want all the members of this group to comment or share story of similar incidents that all may benefit from it. Thanks.

DANGERS OF FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS: I was once a victim.

The Urban dictionary defines "Friends with Benefit" as two friends (male & female) who are too close to one another and have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a relationship or marriage commitment.

Don't have a false hope that having sex with a friend will make him or her fall in love with you. They will only use you and dump you. And once you get pregnant, the only option is to keep a fatherless baby and bear the burden alone or abort the baby and then live with guilt while the guy move on with his life, probablly with his girlfriend.

Having a friend of benefit will keep away potential suitors from you. Well, many years ago, I was one of them—a professing young believer battling lust and looking for love. As a result, I found myself caught up in this tangled “friend with benefits” web. I thought having a casual friend who could also meet emotional and sometimes physical needs for me would help me coast through life until the right one came along. So, I met a desperate and lonely Christian sister who has no boyfriend. I felt like I was in no condition for a real relationship anyway, but we became close friends. After a short period of time, we ended up having sex without any commitment. Finally she got pregnant. And guess what? We aborted the pregnancy.

I was in a mess and didn’t even know it! It affected my relationship with God until I cried for repentance and also asked the lady to forgive me. I suffered spiritually and truly damaged relationships. Now that I have learned the painful lessons from my own past mistakes, I can assure you; this is not the route you want to go. Avoid the friends with benefits scenario at all costs for both spiritual and practical reasons:

SPIRITUAL REASON: Sex outside of marriage is sin plain and simple. It is better to wait for marriage than to displease the Lord. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 says “It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality.” Countless other scriptures urge you to abstain until marriage and avoid the sexual compromise that pulls you away from God and connects you to men God never intended you to be with intimately.

PRACTICAL REASON: You're setting your friendship up for an epic fall. For many reasons, after casual sex, the dynamics of that friendship change and it becomes forever warped. You have to stand your ground if you don’t want lust to dominate and destroy your friendship. If you care about your friend, it’s better to keep your relationship free from TOO MUCH CLOSENESS so you won’t complicate things by undermining the bond of trust and loyalty the two of you have built together.

Any time a woman compromises her self- worth and degrades her value, she becomes a candidate for these things. And it is very much possible to lead yourself down this destructive path by giving benefits to your friend that should be tied to a marital commitment. At some point, you’ll begin to wonder why the relationship can never grow into anything else You’ll inwardly suffer and sink emotionally into a deep black hole where guilt, self-pity, and sadness await you. Don’t devalue your worth by opening yourself up to such emotional turmoil.

The friends-with-benefits-game is not something I would encourage anyone to play. Instead, value your friend and yourself by abstaining from premarital sex. There are many more ways you can get to know someone and enjoy what could be a lasting friendship without taking it there. If you feel things are going in another direction, ask God to help you do the right thing. And remember, real friends provoke each other to do good (Hebrews 10:24) and avoid hurtful unhealthy practices.

There is very interesting scientific facts about what “hooking up” or getting too close to the opposit sex can produce. When we become emotionally attach to man or woman, our brain activates chemicals called dopamine and oxytocin. These hormones are released during sex. Both create a lasting addiction that tie you emotionally to the other person and create a bond—one that was meant for marriage. And yet, women wonder why they just can't let him go or can’t get him out of their mind. 1 Corinthians 6:16 tells us “Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh." This means, you are becoming a part of that person by having sex with them. Ignore this truth if you want to and you’ll end up playing Juanita Bynum’s “No More Sheets” DVD and waling at the throne to be released from all those unhealthy soul ties. Trust me. It’s not worth the pain you’ll endure. So leave that sexual connection where it’s supposed to be—inside marriage.  

A HUSBAND OF HONOUR:

“A man who is in honor, yet does not understand, Is like the beasts that perish”. Ps 49:20

And now for men and husbands, here are some of the general practices that make for a godly marriage, one that follows God’s plan. A man in tune with what God's Word teaches, will begin to cultivate intentional priorities that reflect God’s desires for him as a man. I like to call these:

A PRIORITY OF KIND WORDS: A godly husband will practice one of the simplest, yet most neglected, ways of communicating love - by way of words spoken kindly, warmly, and directly toward his wife. John 7:46. The officers answered, “No man ever spoke like this Man!”

A PRIORITY OF TENDERNESS: A husband who believes his primary ministry is marriage will express his love by giving her a lot of tenderness, respect, chivalry, and courtesy (Eh. 5:28; Col. 3:19; 1 Cor. 13:4, 5). Do not use jokes about her or make cutting remarks to her in front of other people. Speak to her in a gentle and respectful way. Treat her as you would a valuable jewel rather than a piece of garbage can.

A PRIORITY OF PRAISING HER: A husband who believes his primary ministry is marriage will love her by expressing appreciation and praise generously and in large doses (1 Pet. 3:7; Prov. 31:28).

Any husband who does these things will be honoured by his wife, but the man that does not understand and practice this principle will be like beasts that perish. No wonder, some men act like beast by beating their wives. Isn’t it wonderful that God gave us a set of plans so that we would know how to be the best husband or wife? We have a set of guidelines to know just who we should marry: what they would look like, act like, and so on. God has provided a completely detailed set of instructions for how to recognize the absolutely right person to marry if you are looking, or the exact set of operating instructions to become the best husband or wife if you are already married. That is what so much of God's Word is written about: How we can please and serve God in the relationship and activity that will span most of our earthly lives.

 
Today, whoever we are, and where ever we are in our life, we can be praying about our life and marriage and the lives and marriages of those we love—from God's Word!

OPENNESS FOSTER YOUR BONDING IN RELATIONSHIP:

Col 3:9-10 "Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds"

Most of us want an honest relationship with our spouse. But some people have a need for openness -- it gives them a sense of security and helps them become emotionally bonded to the one who meets that need. And those with a need for openness want accurate information about their spouses' thoughts, feelings, habits, likes, dislikes, personal history, daily activities and plans for the future.

Openness helps build compatibility in relationship and marriage. When you and your spouse openly reveal the facts of your past, your present activities, and your plans for the future, you are able to make intelligent decisions that take each other's feelings into account. And that's how you create compatibility -- by making decisions that work well for both of you simultaneously.

Openness is the habit of saying the truth without even being asked for it. In relationships, some people hide small details from their partners just because they didn’t ask about them or because they think that they might not be important to them. Those people think that they are honest and that they are doing nothing wrong but the problem that happens is that they usually ruin their relationships without noticing. Lack of openness might be the seed that grows to become a forest of problems that grows inside a relationship.

Here is why openness is very important in relationships: When partners hide information from each other intimacy is lost. When partners hide information from each other the bond between them becomes weaker. When partners hide information from each other people can use such information against them. When someone discovers that the other person is hiding something he usually feels hurt. If one of them faced a problem because of not being informed about some details his partner knew about earlier. then he will accuse his partner of hiding information. 

Openness strengthen the bond between you and your partner and thus prevent outsiders from influencing your relationship. Because of the truth my beloved shared with me about her past, it built trust in me and confidence that she is worth dying for. No outside influence can make me detour.

Maintaining openness is so simple, just tell your partner about all of your feeling and about all of the things that happen to you even if you think that it might not be important for him to know them. It might be hard at the beginning but as the time passes you will discover the beauty of openness and the tremendous benefits that your relationship will gain.  

ARE YOU SPEAKING MORAL OR IMMORAL LANGUAGES ON FACEBOOK?:

Zeph 3:9 "For then will I turn to the people a pure language, that they may all call upon the name of the Lord, to serve him with one consent".

1 Cor 6:18-20 "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body".

What is facebook turning into? Do you remember a day when there was no immorality being exposed on facebook? But now immorality is the thing in facebook, nudity, filthy languages, prostitution etc. Are you involve into facebook sexual immorality?

Statistic shows that 75% of unmarried males and females are involved in different forms of sexual immoralities on Facebook such as: Filthy languages about their genitals, mastubation through Facebook Video Chat, posting nude pictures to one another, etc. I have counselled more than twenty ladies who were ex victims of Facebook Sex Scandal. One of them told me that it all started when the man who asked for her friendship started appreciating her beauty and desiring to see her genitals. Gradually, their conversation grew into full fletch immorality. They posted their nude pictures to one another, exchange sexy words and also used Facebook Video Chat to see how each other play with their sex organs.

Men knew that women are carried away by what they hear because they are emotional beings by nature. So, they use seducive words to lewd them into immorality. Ladies, how do you react on facebook when you post a new picture and men say, "Hey baby, you look sexy"? The Bible says, flee from sexual immorality and honour God with your body. Are you rebuking those men and let them know that you are born again or even blocking them? Are you involving in immoral or filthy talks with men and women on facebook? God promised to give us PURE LANGUAGE that will lead to His worship. Whatever you sow on facebook may later hunt and destroy your relationship/marriage in the future. An old adage said, "show me your friends and I will tell you who you are".

I recently read a story of a lady who posted her nude picture to her boyfriend. Few months later, they broke up. The guy now used her nude picture to pin her down. He sent it to over 200 students from different schools. When the lady realised that her image was tarnished and could not bear it, she went and commited suicide. 

If we are not careful with the words we speak and how we relate with the strangers we only meet on facebook, it can be used against us in the future. So many relationships and marriages are destroy because of past things they did on facebook with others who now reveal their secrets. 

LADIES, YOUR SINS SHALL FIND YOU OUT:

Prov 30:20 “This is the way of an adulterous woman:She eats and wipes her mouth,And says, "I have done no wickedness." 

Num 32:23 “But if you do not do so, then take note, you have sinned against the Lord; and be sure your sin will find you out”.

Do you know why so many ladies today are crying to get a husband and could not? Do you know why some of you can get a husband but suffered from unending sexual crisis, bareness or give birth to children that are nuisance to you or to society? If your lifestyle is contrary to the Word of God, be sure that your sins will find you out before or after marriage if there is no true repentance.

The book of Proverb mentions “the Way” of an adulterous woman. She commits sins and then wipes herself by putting on costumes, come into the congregation of the saints and PRETEND “I have done no wickedness”. The spirit of adultery can affect both the married and the unmarried woman. Such women that are possess with the spirit of adultery finds it difficult to stay in a committed relationship or marriage. They can’t be satisfied with one man. She can be engage to a faithful man and yet having sex with other men. There are two grievous sins of an adulterous woman: Sin of sex with different men and sin of pretence.

The Lord said in Ezek 16:25-26 that “You offered yourself to everyone who passed by, and multiplied your acts of harlotry. 26 You also committed harlotry with the Egyptians (unbelievers), your very fleshly neighbors, and increased your acts of harlotry to provoke Me (God) to anger”.

WOMEN AND THE COVENANT OF THE FIRSTBORN:

“…Shall I give my FIRSTBORN for my transgression, the fruit of my body for the sin of my soul?” Mic 6:7.

My aim of writing this message is not to condemn women but to help you destroy the grip of Satan over your future marriage.

God valued every firstborn and spoke to Moses, saying, "Consecrate to Me all the FIRSTBORN, whatever opens the womb among the children of Israel, both of man and beast; it is Mine." Exod. 13:1-2. Ladies, are you guilty of the sin of destroying your firstborn through ABORTION?

The Lord says the child in the womb is His but you sacrificed them on the altar of sin before the IDOL OF ABORTION. Prophet Ezekiel gave a vivid illustration of your adulterous act, "Moreover you took your sons and your daughters, whom you bore to Me (God), and these you sacrificed them to be devoured. Were your acts of harlotry a small matter, 21 that you have slain My children and offered them up by causing them to pass through the fire?  Ezek 16:20-22. Oh, what a terrific experience for the innocent child passing through the FIRE of D & C and other cruel methods of ABORTIONS.

After you committed abortion, you then come into the presence of God and offer sacrifice of worship polluting His sanctuary.  The prophet Ezekiel cried out against your abominable acts, “For after they had slain their children for their idols, on the same day they came into My sanctuary to profane it; and indeed thus they have done in the midst of My house”. Ezek 23:39. And Micah declared, “Will the Lord be pleased with thousands of rams, or with ten thousands of rivers of oil? Shall you give your firstborn for your transgression, the fruit of your body for the sin of your soul?” Mic 6:7.

I admonish you to repent and renew your covenant with God. Make up your mind never to involve yourself into sex before marriage. Remain faithful and I promised you that God will surely bring that faithful man to marry you. Wait until you are ONE through marriage because God is seeking for a “godly seed”, Mal 2:15.