YOUR HUSBAND'S SEX DRIVE IS YOUR GIFT, UNWRAP IT:

Sex is the greatest gift that you can give to your husband. You can spend so much time fretting about and avoiding sex that you miss the obvious. While acknowledging that sex is a huge force in your husband's life, don't neglect the fact that God created that force for your use as well. In fact, you should become jealous and possessive of the power inherent in your husband's sexuality. It was intended for you! 

Like many wives, you may be desperate to work on your marriage. You may long for your husband to read relationship books or attend marriage seminars. If you really want his attention, work with the way God designed him. A great sex life won't solve the problems in your marriage; however, it will fortify your husband's desire and commitment to work toward intimacy. Your sexual relationship may be the "on-ramp" to communication, conflict resolution, and building the emotional intimacy you are longing for.

Satan consistently twists into evil what God designed for good. By God's good design, a man's sex drive is strong. If it is harnessed and intensified within marriage, it can be an incredible force fastening a man's affections and passions to his wife. I believe that it is right and godly to claim your husband's sexual desire as a potent source of influence in your marriage. This power was intended for you and for no one else. Unfortunately, if you don't claim it, someone or something else will. 

The power of his sexuality was also designed for your influence in his life. Through his sexuality, you have a powerful place in your husband's life that should belong to only you. It sets apart your relationship as distinctive from every other person in his life. No one can share with him as you can. Instead of lamenting the compelling sexual appeal of pornography and co-workers in your husband's life, focus your energy on reclaiming the influence that is rightly yours.

Fulfilling your husband sexually encompasses so much more than the physical act. It means inviting his sexuality into your marriage, embracing all that he is, hopes, and desires. It includes wanting to fully understand him and welcoming the sexual appetite that expresses his masculinity. It involves striving with him through weakness and temptation and covering his fears and failures. This is your place; this is your power; this is your gift. Unwrap it.

STOP READING YOUR PARTNERS MIND:

Most relationship problems and associated social anxieties start with bad communication, which in turn leads to attempted mind reading. Mind reading occurs when two people assume that they know what the other is thinking when they don’t. This process of wondering and trying to guess what someone is thinking is a rapid route to feelings of insecurity and stress.

If someone says one thing, don’t assume they mean something else. If they say nothing at all, don’t assume their silence has some hidden, negative connotation. Likewise, don’t make the people in your life try to read your mind. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable.

It’s also important to remember that you aren’t suppose to know every little thing going on in the minds of others, even the people closest to you. When you stop trying to read their minds, you really begin to respect their right to privacy. Everyone deserves the right to think private thoughts. Constantly asking, “What are you thinking?” can provoke a person to withdraw from a relationship to find space.

I once heard a definition of love and I certainly agree with it: Love is giving of yourself to another person in order to meet their basic needs without having any expectations in return. When you give of your time, effort and attention to another person in order to meet their basic needs, then real love will begin to happen. The key is in understanding their personality style and understanding the things that make them happy, expecting nothing in return. It is the same principle of "give and it will be given unto you." Notice you must give first before anything comes in return. And sometimes that takes time.

THERE IS NOTHING HIDDING UNDER THE SUN:

Isa 47:3 "Your NAKEDNESS shall be uncovered, Yes, your SHAME will be seen; I will take vengeance, And I will not arbitrate with a man." Isaiah 47:3

Heb 4:13 "And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are NAKED and open to the eyes of Him (God) to whom we must give account". 

Every person hath somewhat which may properly be called his nakedness and shame. "Nakedness" refered to things you do in secrets, e.g adultery, fornication, abortion, murder, charming, stealling, cheating etc. Over that you studiously endeavours to throw a veil, that your secret sins may be preserved from public observation. God said, He will uncovered your nakedness (secret deeds) publicly. Though God is overlooking your evil deeds because of His mercy, very soon His mercy will runs out and then you will face the consequences of your iniquity.

The word "shame" is from a root word that means "a painful emotion generated by guilt and condemnation". Because you know that what you are doing is absolutely wrong, the guilt and condemnation you will generate will affect your emotion. Outwardly, you look good but inwardly, you are suffering from guilt and condemnation. You are ashamed of your evil deed but pretend as if all is well with you. But God declared that He will cause your hidden shame to be seen openly. Now, when the covering is taken away by which any of these things were concealed, then your nakedness and shame are laid open to the inspection of world and an openned target for the manipulation of demons.

Example, by the time you get pregnant out of wedlock or affected with HIV/AIDs, your secret deeds will become open. Then Jer 13:22 says, "And if you say in your heart, "Why have these things come upon me?" For the greatness of your iniquity Your skirts have been uncovered, Your heels made bare".

You do it secretly but God will disgrace you openly. Ninety Nine days for a thief, one day for the owner. The Lord said, "I will take vengeance". Except you repent and reconcile with God, your secret sins will soon be expose and you will suffer from SHAME, DISGRACE and DISAPPOINTMENT. For the Bible says in Matt 10:26, "For there is nothing covered that will not be revealed, and hidden that will not be known". Culled from my book manuscript "The Neighbour's Wife". Coming soon!

WHEN YOU SEE HER NUDITY?:

“Also behind the doors and their posts You have set up your remembrance; For you have uncovered yourself to those other than Me, And have gone up to them; You have enlarged your bed And made a covenant with them; You have loved their bed, Where you saw their nudity”. Isa 57:8

When a man leaves his covenant wife and commits adultery with another woman, he is building a cord of sin. The above verse said, “You have set up your remembrance”; a recollection of the spirits of all the women you slept with. The cord of your unholy sexual intercourse with your neighbour’s wife will linger on until you are destroyed. You have slept with many women and a soul tied has been created. Therefore, you have to “enlarged your bed” of adultery to accommodate the spirits of all the women you defiled because you are now married to all of them. 

You have broken God’s covenant of marriage and made a “covenant with them”. You have uncovered yourself to another woman instead of your wife in the presence of God, the Almighty Witness. God said, as you lay with them on the bed, you are entering into a covenant of marriage with all of them. You have built a soul ties or cords that will later affect your life and the next generation. You have spread your legs upon the bed and see the nudity of your neighbour’s wife. You have defiled the marriage bed and break God’s covenant. Will you go unpunished? 

The scripture says that the married BED should be holy, Heb 13:4 “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge”.

BREAKING PARENTAL CORDS OF INIQUITIES UPON YOUR LIFE:

Lev 26:39 “And those of you who are left shall waste away in their iniquity in your enemies' lands; also in their fathers' iniquities, WHICH ARE WITH THEM, they shall waste away”. 

The iniquity of your parents and your iniquity can make your life be a WASTE by the enemies of the land. The above verse said that the father's iniquities, which are with the children (Parental Cords), shall make them WASTE AWAY.

If you realise that there are reoccurences or unresistant desire for lying, adultery, fornication, divorce and abortion in your life, you might be suffering from CORDS ATTACHMENT from your father's or mother's iniquity. If your parents did not enjoyed their marriage, why should you suffer the same? 

David’s own iniquity was adultery with Bathsheba and the cord of his sin affected his sons. Do you remember Absalom? He was another son of David, who slept with his father’s wives openly before all Israel (2Sam. 16:22). And another son of his, Adonijah, asked for his father’s (David’s) wife Abishag (1Kings 2:17). Solomon had to kill him for this. David himself said: “The spirit of the Lord spake by me, and his word was in my tongue. The God of Israel said, the Rock of Israel spake to me, He that ruleth over men must be just, ruling in the fear of God. And He shall be as the light of the morning, when the sun riseth, even a morning without clouds, as the tender grass springing out of the earth by clear shining after rain. Although my house be not so with God …” (2Sam. 23:2-5).

In other words, David’s house was not a perfect testimony to the Lord. His shining for God was not without some clouds. All that God promised him, he could not fully realize. David traced his fall to the generation cords that bound him when he was in his mother’s womb. He did not say, “I fell because I was careless with a woman”. But he said in Psalm 51:5: “Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me”.

THE GENESIS OF CURRUPTED SPERM AND ITS EFFECT ON YOUR DESCENDANTS:

Mal 2:15-16 “God, not you, made marriage. His Spirit inhabits even the smallest details of marriage. And what does he want from marriage? Children of God (Godly Seeds), that's what. So guard the spirit of marriage within you. Don't cheat on your spouse”. THE MESSAGE Bible.

The word sperm means; semen or seed, this same word sperm derives from the word called Genesis, which means to begin or origin.

In the book of Genesis God began with Adam and Eve, Adam being the (seed or sperm), and Eve being the (egg, womb, cell or ovum), and every living organism that was in the Garden of Eden (the trees, the animals, etc) contained a seed within themselves as in Genesis 1:11, but the difference between the seed that was in the other living organisms and the seed that was in Adam is that; Adam's seed or sperm contained the whole entire Genesis in it.

From the word “Genesis” we get the word called “genetic”, which means; the inheriting of traits, customs, or characteristics that comes from the parents to the children. From this same word Genesis derives another word that is very interesting when you grasp the meaning of the word, and this word is called gene, which means; the basic unit that records or encodes information via genetic code, being able to record information and relate a person's life, DNA or character to the mathematical order of time, seasons or calendar.
Through the genes, parents are able to pass down the times, calendar or seasons into the lives of their children, which becomes a trait, tradition or habit of repeating, celebrating or doing certain things in a mathematic form (repeating of habits in a certain given date, time or period in a year).
During the time of sexual intercourse between a man and a woman, the man releases his sperm, seed, genetic, gene or DNA, also this same sperm contains the history, the patterns of rebellion, the mistakes, wrong choices of that man's nature or character.
And if the man is obedient towards God's will, then his sperm or seed will also contain a DNA with a physical nature of God's godly character to produce a “godly seed”, Malachi 2: 15. When the woman conceives, through sexual intercourse then her womb will begin to form a child with the same nature (goal, vision and character) that is concealed in the history of that sperm.
After Adam had fallen from God's will through the disobedience of eating from the tree of tithe, his Genesis (genetic code, sperm, seed DNA, or gene) also became corrupted. Genesis 2:17 says; the day you eat of the tree of knowledge, notice the word knowledge of good and evil, you shall surely die, from the time when Adam disobeyed God by eating from that tree of tithe, his seed (gene, sperm or genetic encoder) began to fulfil the will of death, the seasons of death, and the times of death.

THE SPERM CARRIES THE SIN NATURE OR GOD'S NATURE
"For the life of the flesh is in the blood." (Leviticus 17:11)

Sinful heredity is transmitted through the blood and not through the flesh.
It is now definitely known that the blood which flows in an unborn babies arteries and veins is not derived from the mother but is produced within the body of the foetus itself only after the introduction of the male sperm.

An unfertilized ovum can never develop blood since the female egg does not by itself contain the elements essential for the production of this blood. This can never occur and does never occur until THE MALE SPERM HAS BEEN UNITED WITH THE FEMALE OVUM. The male element has added life to the egg. Life is in the blood according to scripture, for Moses says: "For it is the life of all flesh; the blood of it is for the life thereof." Leviticus 17:14

Since there is no life in the egg until the male sperm unites with it, and the life is in the blood, it follows that the male sperm is the source of the blood, the seed of life. Think it through.

For this very reason, it is unnecessary that a single drop of blood be given to the developing embryo in the womb of the mother. Such is the case according to science. The mother provides the foetus (the unborn developing infant) with the nutritive elements for the building of that little body in the secret of her bosom, but all the blood which forms in that little body is formed in the embryo itself and only as a result of the contribution of the male parent. From the time of conception to the time of birth of the infant not ONE SINGLE DROP OF BLOOD ever passes from mother to child. The placenta that mass of temporary tissue known better as “afterbirth,” forming the union between mother and child is so constructed that although all the soluble nutritive elements such as proteins, fats, carbohydrates, salts, minerals and even antibodies pass freely from mother to child and the waste products of the child's metabolism are passed back to the mothers circulation, no actual interchange of a single drop of blood ever occurs normally. All the blood which is in that child is produced within the child itself as a result of the introduction of the male sperm. The mother contributes no blood at all. This is the reason why Satan is attacking MEN through UNHOLY SEX so that they will not produce GODLY SEEDs, but to keep traspering the SIN NATURE instead of GOD'S NATURE into the next generation.

Men, we have a greater responsibility to carry the nature of God and produce Godly seeds. We are the cause of all the major problems in our families and nation. If only we can keep our SPERM holy, the world will be a better place to leave in.

When He created woman He made her so that no blood would be able to pass from her to her offspring. That blood is the result of the male. Since Adam was the federal head of the race, it is HIS BLOOD which transmits Adam's Sin. In order to produce a sinless man and yet be the son of Adam, God must provide a way whereby that man would have a human body derived from Adam but have not a drop of Adam's sinful blood. Right here is the scientific biological reason for the sinlessness of the Man Christ Jesus. (Culled from my book "The Mystery of Sex")

MEN AND THE COVENANT OF THE HOLY SEED (SPERM):

SPERM, THE SUBSTANCE OF THE COVENANT WITH GOD
The Hebrew word “zera” means “seed” in the common agricultural sense, but it also means semen or SPERM.

Genesis 17:9, "And God said unto Abraham, Thou shalt keep my COVENANT therefore, thou, and thy SEED after thee in their generations". God’s covenant is with a substance — SPERM is the physical glue that binds a people together to form another human being as God commanded in Gensis 1:27-28, "So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. 28 Then God blessed them, and God said to them,"Be fruitful and multiply;..."

Once the PENIS enter into the VAGINA and the SPERM is release, the COVENANT OF MARRIAGE is executed. The TWO became ONE FLESH, signifying a revelation of the mystery of the covenant between Christ and the Church, according to Eph. 5: 31-32. It is, in a sense, the BLOOD through which the covenant is written.

The warning God gave to man is to "Keep His Covenant". The very moment a man ejaculate (symbol of resurection) and release his sperm into a woman vagina, he resurected God's Covenant of Marriage and he is mandated to keep the covenant by staying married to the woman he had sex with.
In Genesis 2 God makes Adam out of the “dust of the ground.” The soil has no life until it is given life by God, just as women cannot give life unless animated by semen. Thus sperm is not only the fluid of the covenant, it is the substance that makes each man in some sense like God, granting him the chance to share with the creator the joy of creating.

Each time a man sleep with different women, he is breaking the covenant of God. In Malachi, it said that God seek for a GODLY SEED in marriage. Mal 2:14-15, the Lord has been WITNESS between you and the wife of your youth, With whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion And your WIFE BY COVENANT. 15 But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He (God) seeks GODLY SEEDS. Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth".
When married couple are having sex, God come down and witness the act because its a form of worship to Him. But if the man or woman are having sex outside marriage, guess who is the witness? SATAN. Join me tomorrow as we look deeper into this dimension.

The woman is like a garden, except you plant a seed, there will be no pregnancy. Man carry a Holy Seed called “SPERM” – seed from a Holy God. Anything that comes from God is Holy and has a standard. God, the creator created the sperms for a purpose and we must follow the manufacturer’s manual (the Bible) to know the proper way to use the sperm. Revelation 4: 11 said that all things were created for His pleasure or worship. When men climax during sex, God said it’s a form of worship to Him and it most only be in the context of marriage. What gladding the heart of a manufacturer is when the buyers of his product use the device appropriately by following the manual which accompany the product.

God is always displeased when Holy seed are mix up with corrupt seed. Ezra 9:10-13 “And now, O our God, what shall we say after this? For we have forsaken Your commandments, 11 which You commanded by Your servants the prophets, saying, 'The land which you are entering to possess is an unclean land, with the uncleanness of the peoples of the lands, with their abominations which have filled it from one end to another with their impurity. 12 Now therefore, do not give your daughters as wives for their sons, nor take their daughters to your sons; and never seek their peace or prosperity, that you may be strong and eat the good of the land, and leave it as an inheritance to your children forever.'

Before the journey of the children of Israel to the Promised Land, God warned them not to intermarry with the people of the land because they are unclean. And if they obey this instruction, they will be spiritually strong, eat the good of the land, and leave an inheritance for their children forever. But the children of Israel forsook the commandment of God and mixed the Holy Seed with the Corrupt Seed. The Bible said in Ezra 9:1-2 "…The people of Israel and the priests and the Levites have not separated themselves from the peoples of the lands, with respect to the abominations of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Perizzites, the Jebusites, the Ammonites, the Moabites, the Egyptians, and the Amorites. 2 For they have taken some of their daughters as wives for themselves and their sons, so that the HOLY SEED is mixed with the peoples of those lands. Indeed, the hand of the leaders and rulers has been foremost in this trespass." When spiritual leaders begin to sin, it doesn't take long for other people to follow.

One of God's major prohibitions was that His people were not to marry outside the community of believers (Ex 34:11-16; Deut 7:1-4). This was not because of racial difference, for the peoples of the surrounding areas were of the same Semitic race. The reason was strictly spiritual. If God's people married outside Israel they would be tempted (as was Solomon; 1 Kings 11:3-5) to get caught up in pagan idolatrous worship. Intermarrying with people who did not worship Yahweh was symptomatic of the way the people forsook other aspects of God's Law. If they would break this aspect of the Law in the most intimate of human relationships then they would probably also break the Law in other less intimate human relationships.