CLIMBING THE LADDER TO SEXUAL CLIMAX:

During sexual intercourse, do both of you climax at the same time or its only the husband satisfying himself and leaving his wife unsatisfied? Paul tells Christian married couples to “stop depriving one another” of satisfying sex (1 Cor. 7:5). Moreover, the Song of Solomon will make most people blush. Solomon tells his lover, “Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit” Song 7:7. Then he writes, “I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of its branches. Let now your breasts be like clusters of the vine, The fragrance of your breath like apples, 9 And the roof of your mouth like the best wine". Song 7:8-9 The wife responded, "The wine goes down smoothly for my beloved, Moving gently the lips of sleepers". 

Solomon depicts the woman’s stature as a “Palm Tree with Clusters of Fruit”. How do you climb a Palm Tree. Climbing a palm tree is relatively simple when you know what to do. It takes skill to climb a Palm tree. If you climb too fast, there is tendency you might fall. That means, if a man rush in intercourse, he will release too quickly and then his body becomes weak and he fall asleep, leaving the wife longing for a climax. Therefore, in sexual intercourse, the husband is to spend more time caressing his wife (climbing the palm tree) and keep going until he reaches the climax where he lay hold on her breasts. Her breasts is like clusters of the vine, when pressed, all the sexual juices will come out. And that is the right moment for copulation.

The husband stimulates the wife's clitoris and vulva and the wife strokes the husband's penis. This may be done alternately or simultaneously until both reach orgasm. The wife may enjoy her nipples being kissed, licked or sucked while the husband is fondling her vulva. [Careful, husbands: sometimes less is more. Wives: let him know what feels good to you.]

Solomon said, "Your stature is like a palm tree and your breasts are like its clusters" Song 7:7. She has an admirable body. To look upon the clusters of the palm causes the beholder to want to taste them. This simile of subjective response, then, suggests Solomon's desire to kiss and suck her breasts, but he has to start kissing from her legs, the vulva and to the waist , then finally to the breasts before inserting his penis in her vagina. Here is the description of what happen when couples are on bed, "His left hand is under my head, and his right hand embraces me" Song 2: 6. Wow, while his mouth was busy with sucking her breasts, his hands was going through her entire body and gently touching her clitoris until she reach her climax, then she ask him to enter her juicy vagina. 

To "climb the palm tree" had a special meaning. In the Ancient Near East the artificial fertilization of the female palm tree flowers by the male palm tree flowers has been practiced from earliest times. The male and female flowers are born on separate trees in clusters among the leaves. In order to fertilize the female tree, one must climb the male tree and get some of its flowers. One then ascends the female tree and ties among its flowers a bunch of the pollen-bearing male flowers. Thus, to climb the palm tree is to fertilize it. Solomon 's using some contemporary language of the vineyard to say he intends to make love to his wife right away!

Solomon says he will caress her fruit stalks - her breasts. Now he changes images from palms to grape clusters for breasts, which seems more appropriate. Grapes swell and become increasingly round and elastic as they ripen, similar to the female breasts when sexually aroused. Solomon and his wife enjoy making love all night long (Song 2:17).

PASSIONATE KISSING & FOREPLAY BEFORE INTERCOURSE:

The Song of Solomon opens with kissing. Not a hen-peck upon the cheek, but sensuous open mouthed passionate loins stirring, erection producing kissing.

How many husbands are really covering the entire bodies of their wives with passionate kisses? How many wives do not shy away from kissing their husbands with their mouth until he gets hard erection?

"Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine" (Song 1:2).

The word that is here translated "mouth" means the inside of the mouth, the area where food is tasted, implying wet, open mouthed, hot and heavy kissing. Elsewhere in the book it says that in their kissing she discovers that "his mouth is most sweet" (Song of Solomon 5:16), and he finds that "the roof of her mouth is like the best wine" (Song of Solomon 7:9). This is “French Kissing” beyond all doubt.

And there is more, much more. The Anchor Bible says it seems likely these "explicit references to kisses ... include imitative oral activities." And The Jerusalem Bible implies not only mouth to mouth kissing, but kissing all over the body: "Your lips cover me with kisses" (Song 1:2). We are talking about all over body kissing, neck, breasts, nipples, stomach, including the sensual joy of oral stimulation of the genitals.

Husbands, when last did you cover her entire body with kisses? Is she please with your kissing skill? Is the kisses of your mouth stimulating and causing her to yearn for intercourse?

Wives, when last did you kiss his mouth, put your tongue in his ears, and cover his genital with your lips? Is your husband please with the way you kiss him? 

We are the architect of our happiness or sorrow on the marital bed. Put shyness away and bring out the king and queen in you.

FOREPLAY, THE MISSING DIMENSION IN THE MARRIAGE BED

What is Foreplay? Foreplay is define as "Mutual sexual fondling prior to sexual intercourse; an act of stimulating your spouse before ejaculation so that both of you will climax at the same time". 

The Bible shows how beautiful it is for a wife to enjoy sex with her husband. Both the wife and her husband are mandated to satisfy each other base on "Mutual Consent". If one partner is not in the mood, it will affect the other partner. 

In Song of Solomon 1: 2-16, the wife says to her husband during foreplay: “Let your lips COVER me with kisses…! How handsome you are, my lover! How you excite me”. And the husband responded with great delight: “My bride, your lips drip honey. You, my bride, are a garden; a garden locked to others. Your garden is filled with… delicious fruits”. Song of Solomon. 4: 11-13

To be honest, how many men (especially African men) are using their LIPS to COVER the entire body of their wives with kisses until their vagina is wet? How many women in Africa drip honey from their lips and their vagina is not DRY but fill with delicious fruits as they respond to the stimulation of their husbands?

These two scriptures reveals that the two lovers where romancing DEEPLY. He cover her with kisses, meaning he kissed her from head to toy. Her entire body was covered with his kisses and she said, "Honey, you excite me". Her garden (vagina) which is locked out to others and reserve only for him was filled with delicious fruits (vaginal fluid) because he spend time fondling her.
The wife's lip also drip honey as she twist her tongue in his mouth, ears and other sensitive part of his body.

It is your duty to individually create a good atmosphere that will enhance your sexual ecstasy. And you can do that through soft murmurs, encouraging noises, sounds of pleasure, approval and sensation, gasping and shivering.
As a responding wife, you must be completely comfortable undressing before your husband. Aim at provoking him deliberately. Look at him in the eyes and slowly remove each of his garments, caressing your skin as you do so. 

Men, there is a right and wrong way of getting ready for intercourse. Take it easy and slowly. Do not rush. Build up your passion before launching into the deep. (NOTE: Expect my new eBook "Biblical Eroticism", coming soon)

IS ANY SEX POSITIONS BESIDE THE MISSIONARY SINFUL?

I am shocked when I hear people say that any sexual position other than missionary is sinful. I am under the impression that what goes on between a married Christian couple in the privacy of their bedroom is between them and their God.

I just think that if God created my wife for my sexual enjoyment and me for hers. Then, we are glorifying God by being faithful to one another, as well as expressing our love whatever sexual position that may be.

What is a missionary position? A position for sexual intercourse; a man and woman lie facing each other with the man on top, woman underneath; so-called because missionaries thought it the proper position for primitive people. 

In my research about the origin of the Missionary Position, I discovered it arose in response to teachings by Christian missionaries, who taught that the position was the only "proper" way to engage in sexual intercourse. In reality, the term probably originated sometime between 1945 and 1965 through a confluence of misunderstandings and misinterpretations of Bible verses.

The name comes from the days of Missionaries travelling the world to spread the word of Christ. The natives in wild and foreign places had sex in all kinds of ways and very openly. They received many lectures from the Missionaries about modesty and covering themselves and chastity. The natives didn't even know what fornication was until the Missionaries told them. The natives became curious about how and if the Missionaries had sex. When they peeked into their huts all they ever saw them doing was the "Missionary" position, hence the name.

This was during the Victorian era when things sexual were much proscribed to young couples. Sex was only for babies and not to be indulged in merely for pleasure. There was only one proper position for sex and anything else was sinful. Certainly no kissing of naughty places was allowed! Young English women were told before their wedding nights to "close your eyes and think of England" when it came time for sex. This meant that this was a horror to be endured to bring future babies into the world and perpetuate the nation. Missionary position was the only position approved and that's how it got the reputation as being not much fun.

So, judge it by yourself. Is it proper to use different sex position or practice only the missionary position?

IS ORAL SEX BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE A SIN?:

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FOOD THAT HELP MEN TO ENHANCE THEIR ERECTIONS:

As many as one out of three men may be affected by premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction at some point in their lives. Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates too early or before the woman orgasms. Erectile dysfunction occurs when a man becomes sexually excited, but his penis does not fill with enough blood to cause an erection, or when the man cannot maintain an erection long enough to complete a sexual act. Many times men become embarrassed when they have difficulty producing and maintaining an erection, or when they ejaculate too early because sexual endurance is often seen as a measure of sexual satisfaction and enjoyment. While a regular exercise routine is beneficial for increasing sexual stamina, a healthy diet consisting of blueberries, figs, raw oysters, peanuts, garlic, bananas and chocolate can give you the boost in sexual stamina that you seek.

Blueberries - Blueberries are considered a "super sexual" food for men because they function like Viagra, according to The Singles Cafe. Blueberries are packed with compounds that help relax the blood vessels and improve circulation within the body. In addition, blueberries are loaded with fiber, which helps to push excess cholesterol out of the system before it can be absorbed and deposited into the arteries. Lower cholesterol and increased blood flow results in a surge of blood to the penis during sex, causing firmer and longer erections.

Figs - figs are high in amino acids (the building blocks for all hormones), which can increase sexual stamina. A deficiency in amino acids can cause decreased sexual stamina and/or desire for sexual activity.

Raw Oysters - raw oysters contain a large amount of zinc, which is vital for testosterone, sperm, and semen production. Testosterone production affects sexual desire, vigor and sexual stamina in men. In addition, raw oysters contain dopamine. Dopamine creates a feeling of happiness, which can increase a man's desire to prolong sex. A deficiency in zinc can cause sexual dysfunction, impotency and sexual performance problems in some men.

Peanuts - Peanuts are a rich natural source of the amino acid, L-arginine, which is essential for increasing sexual stamina in men, relaxes the blood vessels in the penis causing more blood flow to the region, and increasing sexual stamina during sex.

Garlic - Garlic contains allicin, a compound that is thought to increase blood flow to the sexual organs. Increased blood flow to the penis causes it to stay erect longer, thereby increasing sexual stamina during sex.

Bananas - bananas can increase sexual stamina by increasing the male's energy level during sex. Bananas contain an enzyme called bromelain, which improves male potency, sexual stamina and increases libido. They are also a good source of B vitamins, which increase the body's energy level during sexual activity.

Chocolate - Chocolate may be beneficial in improving sexual stamina in men because it contains the endurance boosters, phenylethylamine and alkaloid. Phenylethylamine is a chemical that promotes good feelings during sex, while alkaloid's caffeine effect increases energy, thereby improving sexual stamina.

BIBLICAL FACTS ON SEXUAL STIMULATION:

Some people expected the church to be fearful, ignorant, sexually repressed and hypocritical with only one message about sex: don't do it this way, but do it God's Way. And what they refer as 'God's way' is only the "Missionary Style" - man on top of woman during sex". Any other style or act of stimulation is regarded as "Perversion". But a biblical understanding of sex in marriage was deeply positive - ''give each other the best pleasure, God made us for it''.

We are aware that some have tried to make a biblical issue out of what parts of the body married couples can and cannot kiss. In their minds, there is only one Biblical form of sexual expression in marriage, man insert his penis into her vagina, ejaculate like pestle and mortar, and satisfied himself without minding if the woman reach orgasm or not. They attempt to defend their viewpoint [by] trying to make it into a holiness issue. Song of Solomon 7:1-2 says, “How beautiful your sandaled feet, O prince's daughter! Your graceful legs are like jewels, the work of a craftsman's hands. Your navel is a rounded goblet that NEVER LACKS BLENDED WINE. Your waist is a mound of wheat encircled by lilies”.

I can assure you that "navel" and "waist" in this translation are oblique references to what lies between her "graceful legs." It may not be a direct reference to cunnilingus, but what else does one do with blended wine but drink it? These verses are contextually supported by three factors: King Salomon's descriptive praise of her is in ascending order, beginning with her feet and concluding with her hair. The movement from her thighs, to her vulva, and then to her waist. He love kissing every part of her body. Kissing one another’s bodies is quite all right. So where do the lips stop kissing? Must they stop before reaching genitalia? Inner thigh okay? Vulva not? Without biblical, health, or practical reasons, I don’t see why that area is forbidden.

Song of Songs 4: 16, it says, "Awake, O north wind, And come, wind of the south; Make my garden breathe out fragrance, Let its spices be wafted abroad. May my beloved come into his garden and eat its choice fruits!"

Garden here is referring to her vagina and she asked the man to breath out fragrance and eat its choice fruits. How will you explain this verse?

According to most modern biblical scholars, the Song of Songs is about the sexual love between a married couple. In this Old Testament book, preserved as part of the holy scriptures, specific sexual acts are described. There appear to be at least two references to oral sex within.

The first woman to man:
“Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. In his shade I took great delight and sat down, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.” Song of Solomon 2:3

The second man to woman:
“Awake, O north wind, and come, wind of the south; make my garden breathe out fragrance, let its spices be wafted abroad. May my beloved come into his garden and eat its choice fruits!” Song of Solomon 4:16

Moreover, there is nothing inherently harmful about oral sex. There isn’t much research into the composition or possible health benefits, but a wife’s natural lubricant appears to be okay for her husband to ingest. The contact of lips and tongue to genitals is not far different from hands or fingers on genitals.

THE FESTAL PROCESSING OF LOVEMAKING:

“While the king is at his TABLE, My SPIKENARD sends forth its fragrance”. Song of Solomon 1:12 NKJV

Table is an English term derived from Hebrew “Mecabh”, which denoted any flat round surface, but especially one used for festal procession. And the word ‘festal’ is refers to what “Offer fun and gaiety; Activities that are enjoyable or amusing”.

When a King is at his table, what do you think will be presented to him? Rich food, fruits and assorted wine, isn’t it? In the above verse, the King was feasting not on fruits and wine, but on his wife’s body. The taste of her mouth was like a mixture of wine, her breasts were like the cluster of fruits on a palm tree and the fragrance of her vulva was like spikenard. Wow, what a royal festal procession! He eats, drink and dance with his lovely wife.

As I said in my previous posts, Solomon used pictorial language to describe the beauty of marriage love and copulation. The wife said, “My Spikenard Gave Forth It's Fragrance”, The pictorial meaning of ‘spikenard’ is the fragrance that emits from her vagina when she is stimulated. 

In those days women would use spikenard to perfume their sexual parts. Spikenard was a costly perfume or ointment derived from a plant native to India. It was used as both a sexual stimulant, and as a relaxant. She was so hot from sexual stimulation that it was causing the scent of spikenard to fill the air letting him know she was in a high state of arousal.

Origen, an early church father, said that spikenard is a hairy plant that emits its scent only when it is rubbed. This lovely woman is saying that when they sit together in a feast of erotic love, he caressed her hairy vulva which emitted a fragrance when stimulated. Since the word for “at his table” can also mean enveloped, he was either enjoying an oral feast, or his erection was enveloped by her vagina. Halleluyah!